Assholeness can sometimes depend on the natural clashing chemistry of two people. I remember when I was young and dating, I would have occasion to go on a blind date and realize that there was something about this girl that was going to corner me in an asshole role no matter what I said or did. And of course there were girls and times where I just knew right away the opposite would be the case — everything would flow smoothly no matter what I said or did within reason.

Jim Ridgway, Jr. military writer — author of the American Civil War classic, “Apprentice Killers: The War of Lincoln and Davis.” Christmas gift, yes!

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