Take Away The Hangover Of When Women Weren’t Supposed To Think About Sex Let Alone Enjoy It Women Still Approach Sex Differently Than Men

The startling clue is the different way modern men and women masturbate. When a man cups his hand around his penis while watching porn he is fantasizing about it siding into a moist, warm vagina. The Female equivalent of this is virtually nonexistent.

When females masturbate, even with a vibrators, studies both in the relatively distant past and recently reveal that women rarely, about 1% of the time, insert anything into their vaginas. In other words they are not fantasizing sexually upon the precise act that men are most naturally and likely to do to them. Thus arises a huge disconnect between men and women’s basic approach to the mechanics of sexual relations both mentally and physically.

Indeed, where men are primarily focused on penetration, women are primarily focused on stimulation. Yet this is somewhat misleading as both are focused on sexual stimulation but in different places. The woman primarily wants her clitoris, basically an undeveloped penis, stimulated the same as a man wants his penis stimulated. The problem is that both cannot reach maximum stimulation by male penetration of the female vagina. By that standard maneuver the female is stimulated at a lesser intensity as the penis only inadvertently grazes the clitoris on the trusting motion of penetration.

And so maximum joint male-female pleasure can be an awkward proposition, particular when one or both partners are inexperienced.

Perhaps the best bridge for both receiving max pleasure is for the male to perform oral sex upon his female partner prior to penis penetration as seems to be a popular option of modern sexual relations.

Jim Ridgway, Jr. military writer — author of the American Civil War classic, “Apprentice Killers: The War of Lincoln and Davis.” Christmas gift, yes!

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