That is not reality. But of course nature gives us an unreal positive bias, else we could not preserver. We come up with all sorts of rationalization in order to cope with nature’s harsh realities — everything happens for a reason, whatever doesn’t kill us makes us stronger and that God has a plan are just a few.
The universal reality is that stars are born and stars die, peace is always offset by war, love by hate. As creatures of the universe we humans cannot avoid nature’s brutal system of creation and destruction — probability balance.
This of course does not mean that we should just throw up our hands in despair. It is always better to strain to stay on the positive side of the balance equation and live among our better angels than to give in to the dark forces of, say, Trumpism.